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Making marriage work – conflict resolution

Friday, November 13th, 2009

Making marriage work – conflict resolution

The Chinese have a saying that even the teeth would sometime bite the tongue. It is an apt saying to remind us that even in the closest and most loving of human relationships, in marriage there will be times when conflict does arise and call for resolution.

Misunderstanding is very often the source of a conflict arising. One spouse might perceive the other’s action or inaction or words as being very unreasonable and most inappropriate in a given circumstance. Parties are quick to take their positions and justify their stand rather than to try to seek to understand the other party.

Added to this problem of a misunderstanding that has given rise to a conflict is the pride within each one of us to refuse to say sorry and to put up a bold front and say that I am not going to swallow my pride and to seek for forgiveness or reconciliation. A cold war might go on for days before the conflict is resolved and in between, there is tension and much unhappiness.

Dr James Dobson, in his customary frankness tackles this delicate problem in a series of questions and answers set out below.

“Misunderstanding is very often the source of a conflict arising.”
Question: You have said every healthy married couple should learn how to fight. What do you mean by that?

Answer: What I have said is that people need to learn how to fight fair, because there is a big difference between healthy and unhealthy combat in marriage. In an unstable marriage, hostility is aimed at the partner, below the belt, with comments like “You never do anything right!” and “Why did I marry you in the first place?” and “You’re getting more like your mother every day!” These offensive remarks strike at the very heart of the mate’s self-worth.

Healthy conflict, by contrast, is focused on the issues that cause disagreement. For example: “It upsets me when you don’t tell me you’re going to be late for dinner.” Or: “I was embarrassed when you made me look foolish at the party last night.”

Can you hear the difference in these two approaches? The first assaults the dignity of the partner while the second is addressed to the source of conflict. When couples learn this important distinction, they can work through their disagreements without wounding and insulting each other.

Question: My wife and I sometimes get into fights when neither of us really wants to argue. I’m not even sure how it happens. We just find ourselves locking horns and then feeling bad about it later. Why can’t we get along even when we want to?

Answer: To answer the question, I would need to know more about the circumstances that set off the two of you. The best I can do is describe one of the most common sources of conflict between people who are committed to each other. I call it experiencing “differing assumptions.” Let me explain.

When husbands and wives engage one another in angry combat they often feel hurt, rejected, and assaulted by the other person. But when these battles are analyzed objectively, we often see that neither side really meant to wound the other. The pain resulted not from intentional insults but from the natural consequences of seeing things from different angles.

For example, a man might assume that Saturday is his day to play golf or watch a game on television because he worked hard all week and deserves a day off. Who could blame him? But his wife might justifiably assume that he should take the kids off her hands for a few hours because she’s been wiping runny noses and changing diapers all week long. She deserved a break today and expected him to give it to her. Again, it’s a pretty reasonable assumption. When these unique perspectives collide, about eight o’clock on Saturday morning, the sparks start to fly.

How can you avoid the stresses of differing assumptions at home? By making sure that you and your wife get no surprises. Most of us can cope with anything if we see it coming in time.

Question: My wife and I love each other very much, but we’re going through a time of apathy. We just don’t feel close to each other. Is this normal, and is there a way to bring back the fire?

Answer: This happens sooner or later in every marriage. A man and woman just seem to lose the wind in their romantic sails for a period of time.

Their plight reminds me of seamen back in the days of wooden vessels. Sailors in that era had much to fear, including pirates, storms, and diseases. But their greatest fear was that the ship might encounter the Doldrums. The Doldrums was an area of the ocean near the equator characterized by calm and very light shifting winds. It could mean certain death for the entire crew. The ship’s food and water supply would be exhausted as they drifted for days, or even weeks, waiting for a breeze to put them back on course.

Well, marriages that were once exciting and loving can also get caught in the romantic doldrums, causing a slow and painful death to the relationship. Author Doug Fields, in his book Creative Romance, writes, “Dating and romancing your spouse can change those patterns, and it can be a lot of fun. There’s no quick fix to a stagnant marriage, of course, but you can lay aside the excuses and begin to date your sweetheart.” In fact, you might want to try thinking like a teenager again. Let me explain.

Recall for a moment the craziness of your dating days–the coy attitudes, the flirting, the fantasies, the chasing after the prize. As we moved from courtship into marriage, most of us felt we should grow up and leave the game playing behind. But we may not have matured as much as we’d like to think.

In some ways, our romantic relationships will always bear some characteristic of adolescent sexuality. Adults still love the thrill of the chase, the lure of the unattainable, excitement of the new and boredom with the old. Immature impulses are controlled and minimized in a committed relationship, of course, but they never fully disappear.

This could help you keep vitality in your marriage. When things have grown stale between you and your spouse, maybe you should remember some old tricks. How about breakfast in bed? A kiss in the rain? Or re-reading those old love letters together? A night in a nearby hotel? A phone call in the middle of the day? A long-stem red rose and a love note? There are dozens of ways to fill the sails with wind once more.

If it all sounds a little immature to act like a teenager again, just keep this in mind: In the best marriages, the chase is never really over.

Question: You have said that the natural progression of a marriage is to become more distant rather than more intimate. Why is that true?

Answer: The natural tendency of everything in the universe is to move from order to disorder. If you buy a new car, it will steadily deteriorate from the day you drive it home. Your body is slowly aging. Your house has to be repainted and repaired every few summers. A business that is not managed carefully will unravel and collapse. A brick that is placed on a vacant lot and left there long enough will eventually turn to dust. Indeed, even the sun and all the stars are slowly burning themselves out. We are, in a manner of speaking, in a dying universe where everything that is not specifically being protected and upgraded is in a downward spiral.

The principle that governs this drift from order to disorder might be called “the law of disintegration.” (Engineers and scientists sometimes call it “the law of entropy.”) The only way to postpone or temporarily combat its influence is to invest creative energy and intelligent design into that which is to be preserved.

Not so surprisingly, human relationships also conform to the principle of disintegration. The natural tendency is for husbands and wives to drift away from each other unless they work at staying together. To provide another analogy, it is as though they were sitting in separate rowboats on a choppy lake. If they don’t paddle vigorously to stay in the same neighborhood, one will drift to the north of the lake and the other to the south. That is exactly what happens when marital partners get too busy or distracted to maintain their love. If they don’t take the time for romantic activities and experiences that draw them together, something precious begins to slip away. It doesn’t have to be that way, of course, but the currents of life will separate them unless efforts are made to remain together.

I wish every newly married couple knew about the law of disintegration and actively protected their relationship from it.

Conflict Resolution in marriage

Thursday, November 12th, 2009

Conflict Resolution: Conflict is inevitable in relationships. No matter how much you love someone, you will have differing ideas, preferences, or favored activities. Learning how to resolve these differences, appropriately, can avoid prolonged or destructive anger and hostility. Conflict resolution skills include cultivating the right attitude as well as learning interpersonal techniques. An attitude of cooperation, valuing partnership, demonstrating trust, and general goodwill toward one another aid in the goal of reducing and resolving conflicts. Consider the following principles for conflict resolution:

Try to take a problem-solving attitude toward issues, versus one of blame. Problem solving is much more practical and leads people in a different—and more productive—direction than blame. Assigning responsibility is useful to the degree it helps to generate solutions. Blame has a component of punishment attached.

Learn to take responsibility for your anger: other people can’t make you angry any more than they can make you happy or cause you to lose five pounds. It is true that you can take what they say to you, and as you dwell upon it, you can make yourself very angry about what they have said. You may think, “How dare he say that! He has no right,” but this is just your reaction to what was said.

When angry, you may need to discuss the issue at another time, or have a referee, or hold your discussion in a coffee shop (where the presence of others will keep both of you from yelling or insulting one another).

Alternatively, you can “argue” in writing. The advantage of writing to one another is that you may end up explaining your position more clearly, and are likely to remain respectful, as you commit your thoughts and words to paper. This is a good technique to de-fuse angry disagreements.

Include in your rules for arguments and discussions that neither of you will yell, call names, put down, or otherwise insult or demean the other.

Learn to take a “time out” in order to cool your anger until you’re able to be responsible for your behavior. Time outs should follow certain rules:

It’s not OK to use time outs to “ding” the other person, for example, after you’ve had the last word.

Time outs can’t be used to leave and go somewhere that will escalate the argument. That is, if you’re arguing about whether you go to the local bar too often, then it’s not OK to take a time out so you can go to the bar.

On your time out do things that allow you to gain self-control and mellow out. You could exercise (walk, jog, bicycle), do relaxation exercises, stretching, or yoga, or meditate. Don’t do something that contributes to your anger—for many people, activities like working out on a punching bag can raise levels of aggression and anger.
7. Make use of “cool down” activities—less formal than time out’s, cool downs can be momentary breaks that allow both of you to catch your breath and de-escalate. You could offer to make a cup of tea or coffee, or a sandwich. You could propose a walk around the block. You could suggest, “Hey, let’s stop and take a deep breath.” Remember: this works better when you use I messages and are responsible for your own process. To say, “I’m feeling pretty tense…give me a moment here. How about if I get both of us some lemonade, so I can calm down, and we can continue to have a good discussion?” It usually doesn’t work if you say, “Hey, calm down!” You’re actions are likely to be perceived as a put down and an attempt to control the other person’s behavior. Concentrate on how you can manage your own behavior appropriately.

How to Resolve Conflicts in a Marriage

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

How to Resolve Conflicts in a Marriage
Occasional conflict in marriage is par for the course. Contrary to what some inexperienced couples with m… More

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Minimize distractions. Turn the television off, put the answering machine on and go to an area in your home, where the two of you won’t be disturbed. You and your spouse should be able to concentrate on your issues, without having your attention drawn away.

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Attack the issue, not the person. Too often, individuals can get so caught up in the anger of the moment, that they make demeaning, overly critical remarks about their spouses. A couple should, instead, be dealing only with the specific concern that has caused contention between them, not launching personal attacks against each other. Belittling your husband/ wife will only exacerbate the problem and break down the lines of communication.

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Listen to each other. In any conflict, there are always two sides. You may be tempted to dominate the conversation by expressing your own opinions, without allowing your spouse to share his or her views on the matter at hand. If you sincerely want to subvert further disagreement, you must be willing to hear each other out. The two of you should be respectful to one another and make a sincere effort to consider what the other has to say.

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Avoid making blanket generalizations. Some couples, when in a dispute, preface their remarks with phrases, such as “You never” or “You’re always”, likely followed by a negative statement. This is unfair and probably untrue. Generalizing can make the other person feel defensive and that you have already formed an unyielding opinion against him or her.

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Try to keep from bringing up old conflicts. Rehashing a past disagreement, in the midst of your current one, will only compound the anger and make you lose focus on the issue at hand. For example, if you are upset today, because your husband made an insensitive remark or your wife dented the car, then address that problem. Try not to complicate the present conflict by adding on concerns that formerly offended you.

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Be willing to confess mistakes. Be flexible enough to consider that you may be the one in the wrong. Nobody is right all of the time and, often, both parties may need to admit that they have contributed to the cause of a problem. Your readiness to address your own faults can help your spouse feel less vulnerable about coming clean with his/her own faults. If your significant other does admit a blunder, resist the urge to gloat.

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Employ a sense of humor. Keeping a sense of humor is essential in any marriage and even in the midst of conflict, it can disarm negativity and help a couple to let down their guard. It may not apply to every situation, but never discount the power of laughter!

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Forgive each other. Too often, couples hold on to grudges and hurts, even after they have seemingly addressed a conflict. Once an argument is over, learn to let it go and work on learning ways to improve your relationship in the future. Realizing that neither of you is “perfect” will help you see things in a more rational perspective.

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Get counseling. If you find that you and your spouse are having difficulty resolving your conflicts on your own, it may be time to ask for outside assistance. You might choose a licensed, certified marriage counselor to help you or you may prefer to speak with your rabbi, priest or pastor.. Whatever option you decide upon, it’s important that you put forth the effort to find out the root cause of all the contention, so that you can effectively deal with it.

ADHD fraud

Tuesday, November 10th, 2009

ADHD fraud

Fred A. Baughman Jr., MD has been an adult & child neurologist, in private practice, for 35 years. Making “disease” (real diseases–epilepsy, brain tumor, multiple sclerosis, etc.) or “no disease” (emotional, psychological, psychiatric) diagnoses daily, he has discovered and described real, bona fide diseases.

It is this particular medical and scientific background that has led him to view the “epidemic” of one particular “disease”–Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)–with increasing alarm. Dr. Baughman describes this himself. Referring to psychiatry, he says:

“They made a list of the most common symptoms of emotional discomfiture of children; those which bother teachers and parents most, and in a stroke that could not be more devoid of science or Hippocratic motive–termed them a ‘disease.’ Twenty five years of research, not deserving of the term ‘research.,’ has failed to validate ADD/ADHD as a disease. Tragically–the “epidemic” having grown from 500 thousand in 1985 to between 5 and 7 million today–this remains the state of the ’science’ of ADHD.”

In addition to scientific articles that have appeared in leading national and international medical journals, Dr. Baughman has testified for victimized parents and children in ADHD/Ritalin legal cases, writes for the print media and appears on talk radio shows, always making the point that ADHD is fraudulent–a creation of the psychiatric-pharmaceutical cartel, without which they would have nothing to prescribe their dangerous, addictive, Schedule II, stimulants for–namely, Ritalin (methylphenindate), Dexedrine (dextro-amphetamine), Adderall (mixed dextro- and levo-amphetamine) and, Gradumet, and Desoxyn (both of which are methamphetamine, ’speed,’ ‘ice’).

The entire country, including all 5-7 million with the ADHD diagnosis today, have been deceived and victimized; deprived of their informed consent rights and drugged–for profit! It must be stopped. Now!

Go to this website to download the video http://adhdfraud.org/

Children are dying from ADHD Drugs

Tuesday, November 10th, 2009

Children are dying from ADHD Drugs

Info for Parents who are pressured to diagnose and drug their children for ADD or ADHD. Story behind our Sons death caused from ADHD drug, Ritalin.
Between 1990 and 2000 there were 186 deaths from methylphenidate reported to the FDA MedWatch program, a voluntary reporting scheme, the numbers of which represent no more than 10 to 20% of the actual incidence.

9/1/1985-3/20/00 Our 14-year-old Son Died from Ritalin Use
1. We have a National Directory of: Allergists, Chiropractic Neurologist, Chiropractors, Hearing Specialists, Holistic Medical Doctors, Learning Centers, Nutritionists, Osteopathic Physicians, Speech and Language Specialists and Vision Specialists.

2. We have three stand alone categories for ADHD Help: Alternative Therapies, Homeopathy and Therapeutic Boarding Schools

3. We also have the National Alliance, ADHD Help Pages with the above Directories. AL, AK, AZ, AR, CA, CO, CT, DE, FL, GA, HI, ID, IL, IN, IA, KS, KY, LA, ME, MD, MA, MI, MN, MS, MO, MT, NE, NV, NH, NJ, NM, NY, NC, ND OH, OK, OR, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VT, VA, WA, WV, WI, WY.

April 15, 2001 this website was created in hopes of providing parents and guardians with information about the truth behind ADHD and the drugs used to treat children diagnosed with ADD or ADHD.

We built this website because we didn’t want other children to die or suffer side effects because of their parents lack of knowledge.

We did all we could to convince state and federal government about the methods used in the miss-diagnosing of thousands of children with in ADD – Attention Deficit Disorder and ADHD Attention hyperactivity disorder of ADHD and psychotropic drugging of children with Ritalin and other drugs.

Since the death of our 14-year-old son Matthew caused from the use of Ritalin prescribed for ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) our family has been informing others world wide via the internet about ADHD and the dangers of psychotropic drugs in memory of our son and countless other children that have died over the years as a direct result of using psychotropic drugs.

We wish to expose the health risks, dangers, deaths and suicides that are a direct result of administering Ritalin and other psychiatric drugs to children.

We hope our story and information will in some way benefit your family and prevent our tragedy from being your families’ reality and nightmare.

Our fourteen year old son Matthew suddenly died on March 21, 2000. The cause of death was determined to be from the long-term (age 7-14) use of Methylphenidate, a drug commonly known as Ritalin.

According to Dr. Ljuba Dragovic, the Chief Pathologist of Oakland County, Michigan, upon autopsy, Matthew’s heart showed clear signs of small vessel damage caused from the use of Methylphenidate (Ritalin).

*The certificate of death reads: “Death caused from Long Term Use of Methylphenidate, Ritalin.”

I was told by one of the medical examiners that a full-grown man’s heart weighs about 350 grams and that Matthew’s heart’s weight was about 402 grams. Dr. Dragovic said this type of heart damage is smoldering and not easily detected with the standard test done for prescription refills. The standard test usually consists of blood work, listening to the heart, and questions about school behaviors, sleeping and eating habits.

*What is important to note here is that Matthew did not have any pre-existing heart condition or defect.

Matthew’s story started in a small town within Berkley, Michigan. While in first grade Matthew was evaluated by the school, who believed he had ADHD. The school social worker kept calling us in for meetings. One morning at one of these meetings while waiting for the others to arrive, Monica told us that if we refused to take Matthew to the doctor and get him on Ritalin, child protective services could charge us for neglecting his educational and emotional needs. My wife and I were intimidated and scared. We believed that there was a very real possibility of losing our children if we did not comply with the schools threats.

Monica further explained ADHD to us, stating that it was a real brain disorder. She also went on to tell us that the Methylphenidate (Ritalin) was a very mild medication and would stimulate the brain stem and help Matthew focus.

We gave into the schools pressure and took our son to a pediatrician that they recommended. His name was Dr. John Dorsey of Birmingham, Michigan. While visiting Dr. Dorsey with the schools recommendation for Methylphenidate (Ritalin) in hand, I noted that he seemed frustrated with the school. He asked us to remind the school that he was not a pharmacy.

I can only conclude from his comment that we were not the first parents sent to him by this school. Dr. John Dorsey officially diagnosed Matthew with ADHD. The test used for the diagnosis was a five minute pencil twirling trick, resulting in Matthew being diagnosed with ADHD.

*It is important to note that the schools insistence and role in our son’s drugging was documented in a letter written by Monica to the pediatrician stating: “We would have hoped you would have started Matthew on a trial of medication by now”.

At no time were my wife and I ever told significant facts regarding the issue of ADHD and the drugs used to “treat it”. These significant facts withheld from us inevitably would have changed the road that we were headed down by ultimately altering the decisions we would have made.

We were not told that The Drug Enforcement Administration had classified Methylphenidate (Ritalin) as a Schedule II drug, comparable to Cocaine.

We were not told that Methylphenidate is also one of the top ten abused prescription drugs.

At no time were we informed of the unscientific nature of the disorder.

We were not told that there was widespread controversy among the medical establishment in regards to the validity of the disorder.

Furthermore, we were not provided with information involving the dangers of using Methylphenidate (Ritalin) as “treatment” for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. One of these dangers includes the fact that Methylphenidate, Ritalin causes constriction of veins and arteries, causing the heart to work overtime and inevitably leading to damage to the organ itself.

We were not made aware of the large number of children’s deaths, that have been linked with these types of drugs used as “treatment”.

While Matthew was taking Methylphenidate (Ritalin), at no time, were we informed of any test: echo-cardiogram, MRI. These types of tests could have detected the damage done to his heart. These test are not considered “standard” in monitoring “treatment” of ADHD they are usually never administered to children. Sadly death is inevitable without the possibility of detection.

*I want to ask every parent to ask themselves these important questions:

How different would your decisions be if information was withheld from you? How different would your decisions be if you receive only distorted data?

I, myself, know that our families and Matthews outcome would have been quite different had we received all information. If I had known certain facts I would have acted differently and my son would be alive today. This I am sure of.

Informed Consent”, which states in part A person’s agreement to allow something to happen (such as surgery) that is based on a full disclosure of the facts needed to make the decision intelligently; i.e. knowledge of risks involved, alternatives etc” and “the probable risks against the probable benefits”

The violation of parent’s rights is when they are not told of the unscientific nature of so-called disorders such as ADHD or the risks of the treatments involving drugs like Ritalin, and they certainly are not told of alternatives to their child’s behavior such as undiagnosed allergies or food sensitivities, which could manifest with the symptoms of what psychiatry calls ADHD.

*Here are some facts that are being withheld from parents that could possibly alter their life decisions and outcomes.

Did you know that schools receive additional money from state and federal government for every child labeled and drugged? This clearly demonstrates a possible “financial incentive” for schools to label and drug children. It also backs up the alarming rise/increase in the labeling and drugging that has taken place in the last decade within our schools.

Did you know that parents receiving welfare money from the government can get additional funds for every child that they have labeled and drugged? In this way, many lower socio-economic parents (many times single mothers) are reeled into the drugging by these financial incentives waved in front of them in hard times, making lifestyle changes possible.

Did you know that by labeling your child with ADHD, you are actually labeling them with a mental illness listed in the DSM-IV, the unscientific billing bible for psychiatry?

Did you know that a child taking a psycho-tropic, psycho-stimulant drugs like Ritalin after the age of 12 is ineligible for military service?

Did you know that the subjective checklists that are being used as criteria for diagnosis are very similar to the checklists used to determine Gifted and Talented Children? These two checklists are almost identical.

The Drug Enforcement Administration clearly states in their report on Methylphenidate: “However, contrary to popular belief, stimulants like methylphenidate will affect normal children and adults in the same manner that they affect ADHD children. Behavioral or attentional improvements with methylphenidate treatment therefore is not diagnostic of ADHD.” (p.11) This statement thoroughly contradicts what is being told to many parents by the many “professionals” that have a vested stake in the diagnosis itself.

The DEA further states that: “Of particular concern is that most of the ADHD literature prepared for public consumption by CHADD and other groups and available to parents, does not address the abuse potential or actual abuse of methylphenidate. Instead, methylphenidate (usually referred to as Ritalin by these groups) is routinely portrayed as a benign, mild substance that is not associated with abuse or serious side effects. In reality, however, there is an abundance of scientific literature which indicates that methylphenidate shares the same abuse potential as other Schedule II stimulants.” (p.4)

Did you know that groups like CHADD and others available to parents are being supported financially by pharmaceutical companies? This is a red flag and demonstrates a conflict of interest in the role that these groups have regarding our children’s health and well-being.

Did you know that there are studies such as the Berkeley Study that contends that Ritalin and other stimulants further raise the risk of drug abuse? From the Wall Street Journal, Monday, May 17, 1999 by Marilyn Chase: “Nadine Lambert, a professor of education, followed almost 500 children for 26 years. She argues that exposure to Ritalin makes the brain more susceptible to the addictive power of cocaine and doubles the risk of abuse.”

This study seems to never make it into the hands of parents because it doesn’t support the theories of those using the diagnosis to profit off of our children. What does seem to make it into many parents’ hands is research indicating that if children go “untreated”, which corresponds with “unmedicated” they will “self-medicate” or end up as juvenile delinquents. Sadly many of these parents are not aware that many of this biased and unproven research (one such is the Beiderman study) infiltrating our schools are actually being distributed by pharmaceutical companies, such as Novartis. This in itself is another red flag and conflict of interest surrounding our children’s health.

I leave you with this question: How many more 11 year old Stephanie Hall’s, 14 year old Matthew Smith’s and 10 year old Shaina Dunkle’s need to die before we realize what is happening and speak out and act to put an end to it?

One toy might be recalled if 1 or 2 children die from it. How many children have to die from these drugs before we realize and put an end to this horror. Why should hundreds or thousands have to die before we are outraged and act?

Is the profit of so many, worth more than our children’s safety and lives? Sadly the deaths of these children have remained unexposed and suppressed for so long because there is a tremendous amount of money and profit at stake for so many. My son’s voice will not be one of those suppressed and quieted.

*Below is a copy of a letter sent to the doctor by our sons school social worker and psychologist asking the doctor for our six-year-old to be put on Ritalin.

11/22/91

IEP will be on December 6. We have recognized his learning difficulties. We’ll likely give him maximum time in a resource room (3 hours/day).

Our concern is that his psychological testing has shown strong average intelligence. Sub-scores are weakest in the areas of attention and memory (which our psychologist believes are indications of ADHD)

He has had a long history of impulsive over-activity. We (social worker-psychologist witnessed this in Matt’s pre-school at Miss Molly’s, That’s why we certified him eligible for PPI – pre- primary-impaired. He had his PPI year, then kindergarten year and now 1st grade.

Many environmental changes have been tried to help Matt concentrate and focus, yet he is still at a beginning kindergarten readiness. We believe his high level of distraction is even more of a handicap than his learning deficits.

We had hoped by September you and Matt’s parents would have begun a trial of medication so that we could assess whether his learning would have benefited by increased focus and concentration.

Would you consider simultaneously having Matt begin his 3 hours in a resource room with a prescribed medical therapy? Parents indicate they would feel comfortable with this decision if you do.

We are so concerned that Matt has begun to see himself as “bad” and doing “bad things” I, as the school social worker, will continue to work with Matt on self-esteem and social skills.

Matthew supposedly needed this drug Ritalin because of a subjective diagnosis called ADHD until it silenced him forever on March 21, 2000, even sadder I have learned that thousands of children have died as a direct result of using psychotropic medications over the years.

*Matthew’s Voice in Death Will be Heard by All 9/1/1985 – 3/21/2000

In closing we would hope this website about Attention Deficit Hyperactivity disorder, “ADHD” or Attention Deficit Disorder “ADD”. and just how lethal these psychotropic can be. Sincerely, “The Smith family

Ritalin: Child Abuse on Prescription?

Study’s failure to report on the crucial comparison between unmedicated and medicated ADHD subjects.

Family doctors are these days frequently under pressure (usually from teachers and social workers who know nothing about drug therapy and probably understand nothing about the way the international drug industry operates) to prescribe the drug called Ritalin for children who are accused of behaving badly, reported as not doing well at school and `diagnosed’ as suffering from something called Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (known as ADHD).

For several decades now Ritalin, and other amphetamine type drugs, have been prescribed for children dysfunction and diagnosed as suffering from various types of brain hyperactivity. (Other psycho-stimulants which have, at one time or another, been regarded as competitors to Ritalin have included Dexedrine).

In my view the first problem is that Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (and other variations on the hyperactivity theme) is a rather vague diagnosis which is often leapt upon by teachers, social workers and parents to excuse and explain any unacceptable or uncontrollable behaviour.

Parents of children whose behaviour is in any way regarded as different or unusual are often encouraged to believe that their child is suffering from a disease for two simple reasons. First, it is more socially acceptable to give a child a pseudoscientific label than to have to admit that he or she may simply be badly behaved.

Second, when a child has been given a label it is possible to offer a treatment. Commonly it will be one, such as a drug, which offers someone a profit. ADHD, which is also known as Attention Deficit Disorder (or ADD), hyperkinetic child syndrome, minimal brain damage, minimal brain dysfunction in children, minimal cerebral dysfunction and psycho-organic syndrome in children, is a remarkably non specific disorder. The symptoms which characterize the disorder may include: a chronic history of a short attention span, distractibility, emotional lability, impulsivity, moderate to severe hyperactivity, minor neurological signs and abnormal EEG. Learning may or may not be impaired.

Read that rather nonsensical list of symptoms carefully and you’ll find that just about any child alive could probably be described as suffering from ADHD.

What child isn’t impulsive occasionally? What child doesn’t cry and laugh (that’s what emotional lability means)? What child cannot be distracted?

One big worry I have is that Ritalin could be recommended for any child who seemed bored and restless or who exhibited unusual signs of intelligence or skill. Read the biographies of geniuses and you may wonder what we are doing to our current generation of most talented individuals.

`Is Ritalin a drug in search of a disease?’ wrote one author, and it isn’t difficult to see why.

First Used In The 1960s

Ritalin has been recommended as a treatment for functional behaviour problems since the 1960s. When CIBA first suggested this in 1961 they were turned down by the FDA but in 1963 approval was given for this use of the drug.

By 1966 the `experts’ had come up with a definition of the sort of child for whom Ritalin could useful be prescribed. Children suffering from Minimal Brain Dysfunction (MBD), the first syndrome for which Ritalin was recommended, were defined as `children of near average, average or above average general intelligence with certain learning or behavioral disabilities ranging from mild to severe, which are associated with deviations of function of the central nervous system. These deviations may manifest themselves by various combinations of impairment in perception, conceptualization, language, memory and control of attention, impulse or motor function’.

Other symptoms which children might exhibit and which could be ascribed to MBD included: being sweet and even tempered, being cooperative and friendly, being gullible and easily led, being a light sleeper, being a heavy sleeper and so on and on.

Given that sort of list to work with it is difficult to think of a child who wouldn’t benefit from Ritalin – though the official estimate seemed to be that only around 1 in 20 children were real MBD sufferers.

A Convenient Diagnosis

The bottom line is that it has become easy for social workers and teachers to define any children who misbehaves or doesn’t learn `properly’ as suffering from MBD or ADHD. Its a convenient diagnosis which excuses parents, teachers and social workers from responsibility or any sense of guilt. How can the parents or the teacher be accused of failing when the child is ill?

The head of the task force which identified and labeled MBD allegedly subsequently joined the company making Ritalin and produced their hand book for doctors on the condition. Commercially Ritalin and MBD became a huge success. By 1975 around a million children in the U.S. were diagnosed as suffering from MBD. Half of these were being given drugs and half of those on drugs were on Ritalin.

For the sake of completeness I should point out that Ritalin has not always been used exclusively in the treatment of badly behaved children.

When Dr Andrew Malleson wrote his book `Need Your Doctor Be So Useless’ in 1973 he reported that the CIBA Pharmaceutical Company had suggested `to doctors the use of their habit forming drug Ritalin for `environmental depression’ caused by `NOISE: a new social problem’.

Does Ritalin Work?

The next question which has to be asked is: `Does Ritalin work?’

Well, I’m afraid that I can’t answer that question. And I honestly don’t think anyone else can either. Novartis, the drug company which is now responsible for Ritalin in the UK, admits that `data on…efficacy of long term use of Ritalin are not complete’.

With one in twenty children said to be suffering from MBD (or ADHD or ADD or whatever else anyone wants to call it), with Ritalin having been on the market and used for this condition for over three decades, and with some experts saying that a million children a year are given Ritalin in the U.S. alone you might find this a trifle disappointing.

Just how long does it take to find out whether or not a drug works? Am I being horribly cynical in suggesting that it might be against the drug company’s interests to find out whether or not Ritalin really works? After all, if long term studies found that Ritalin didn’t work a very profitable drug would, presumably, lose some of its appeal. Some research has been done. One five year study of hyperactive children who were given Ritalin at Montreal Children’s Hospital found that the children did not differ in the long term from hyperactive children who were not given the drug. At least one investigator has reported that drugs like Ritalin may produce a deterioration in learning new skills at school and parents have reported that the symptoms of MBD have miraculously disappeared during school holidays.

The picture is confused by the fact that there may be a short term improvement in behaviour among children given Ritalin. But is this a real improvement? Or is the child simply drugged? Amphetamine type drugs reduce the variety of behaviour exhibited by children. A child taking Ritalin might have more focused behaviour. But although that might mean less disruption in the classroom does it really help the child? And should we give a child a powerful and potentially hazardous drug because they it keeps him quiet?

There is evidence suggesting that children who are genuinely hyperactive may have been poisoned by food additives or by lead breathed in from air polluted by petrol fumes. If this is so then is giving another potentially toxic drug really the answer to this problem?

Potentially Toxic

The next problem is that I believe that Ritalin can reasonably be described as potentially toxic. Ritalin has been described as `very safe’ but for the record here is a list of some of the possible side effects which may be associated with Ritalin: nervousness, insomnia, decreased appetite, headache, drowsiness, dizziness, dyskinesia, blurring of vision, convulsions, muscle cramps, tics, Tourette’s syndrome, toxic psychosis (some with visual and tactile hallucinations), transient depressed mood, abdominal pain, nausea, vomiting, dry mouth, tachycardia, palpitations, arrhythmias, changes in blood pressure and heart rate, angina pectoris, rash, pruritus, urticaria, fever, arthralgia, alopecia, thrombocytopenia purpura, exfoliative dermatitis, erythema multiforme, leucopenia, anaemia and minor retardation of growth during prolonged therapy in children.

Doctors who prescribe Ritalin, and who have the time and the inclination to read the warnings issued with the drug, will discover that Ritalin should not be given to patients suffering from marked anxiety, agitation or tension since it may aggravate these symptoms.

Ritalin is contraindicated in patients with tics, tics in siblings or a family history or diagnosis of Tourette’s syndrome. It is also contraindicated in patients with severe angina pectoris, cardiac arrhythmias, glaucoma, thyrotoxicosis, or known sensitivity to methylphenidate and it should be used cautiously in patients with hypertension (blood pressure should be monitored at appropriate intervals). Ritalin should not be used in children under six years of age, should not be used as treatment for severe depression of either exogenous or endogenous origin and may exacerbate symptoms of behavioural disturbance and thought disorder if given to psychotic children.

The company selling it claims that although available clinical evidence indicates that treatment with Ritalin during childhood does not increase the likelihood of addiction chronic abuse of Ritalin can lead to marked tolerance and psychic dependence with varying degrees of abnormal behaviour.

Ritalin, it is warned, should be employed with caution in emotionally unstable patients, such as those with a history of drug dependence or alcoholism, because such patients may increase the dosage on their own initiative.

Ritalin should also be used with caution in patients with epilepsy since there may be an increase in seizure frequency.

And height and weight should be carefully monitored in children as prolonged therapy may result in growth retardation. (A child might lose several inches in possible height – though if treatment is stopped there is a generally a growth spurt). It is perhaps worth mentioning here my view that if a drug is powerful enough to retard growth it does not seem entirely unreasonable to suspect that the chances are high that it may be having other powerful effects upon and within the body.

Doctors are also warned that careful supervision is required during drug withdrawal, since depression as well as renewed overactivity can be unmasked. Long term follow up may be needed for some patients.

There have also been reports that children have committed suicide after drug withdrawal. And one study has shown that children who are treated with stimulants alone had higher arrest records and were more likely to be institutionalized. Long term use of Ritalin has been said to cause irritability and hyperactivity (these are, you may remember, the problems for which the drug is often prescribed). In a study published in Psychiatric Research and entitled Cortical Atrophy in Young Adults With A History of Hyperactivity brain atrophy was reported in more than half of 24 adults treated with psychostimulants (though I don’t think anyone can say for sure whether or not the psychostimulants caused the brain atrophy the possible link should make prescribers, teachers and parents who are fans of Ritalin stop and think for a moment).

In Johannesburg a study of 14 children is said to have produced a response in only 2 children. One child showed some deterioration and another showed marked deterioration.

The final insult is, surely, the fact that the company selling Ritalin tells doctors that `Data on safety and efficacy of long term use of Ritalin are not complete.’ For this reason they recommend that patients requiring long term therapy should be monitored carefully with periodic complete and differential blood counts, and platelet counts.

I regard this as an insult because Ritalin is not a new drug.

I have not, at the time of writing this, been able to find out exactly when it was first introduced but I have been able to trace it back to 1961.

Now, maybe I’m being rather demanding but it does seem to me that when a drug has been on the market for well over a quarter of a century it isn’t entirely unreasonable for the drug company involved to have completed studying the data on whether or not it works and is safe.

Cancer In Mice

When early safety tests were done on mice researchers found that the drug caused an increased in hepatocellular adenomas and, in male mice only, an increase in hepatoblastomas (described as `a relatively rare rodent malignant tumor type’). The significance of these results to humans is unknown’ say Novartis, the company selling Ritalin.

Here, once again, is yet more proof of the total worthlessness of animal experiments and the ruthless and cynical attitude shown by drug companies and those government departments which allegedly exist to protect the public from unsafe drugs.

I have frequently argued that when drug companies perform pre clinical tests on animals they do so knowing that if the tests show that a drug doesn’t cause any problems when given to animals they can use the results to help convince the authorities that the drug is safe.

On the other hand when a drug does cause a problem when given to animals the results can be ignored on the grounds that `the significance of these results to humans is unknown’.

The question here is a very simple one: if the experiments on mice which showed that Ritalin causes cancer were of value why is the drug still available on prescription for children? And if the experiments can safely be ignored (on the grounds that animals are so different to human beings that the results are irrelevant) why the hell were the tests done in the first place?

Ignorance And Misplaced Trust

My own feeling is that the people who told you that Ritalin is ‘very safe’ are either unable to read or too lazy to do any research into the safety of a product which they are recommending with such enthusiasm.

Years of experience mean that I am not in the slightest bit surprised to find such crass stupidity exhibited by social workers. I am, however, more surprised to find school teachers showing such a potent mixture of ignorance and misplaced trust. Some observers claim that Ritalin can be considered for a children when tests and clinical examinations have shown the existence of a clear neurological disorder – with abnormal brain wave patterns.

Psychiatrist, psychologist, health visitor, teachers, GP and parents should, it is said, all be considered before considering treatment.

Even the company selling Ritalin says that `Ritalin treatment is not indicated in all children with this syndrome and the decision to use the drug must be based on the physician’s evaluation of the child’s history and the duration and severity of symptoms’.

However, despite this, when a team of researchers from the United Nationals International Narcotics Control Board examined the records of nearly 400 pediatricians who had prescribed Ritalin they found that half the children who had been diagnosed as suffering from MBD (or ADD or whatever) had not been given psychological or educational testing before being given the drug. The United Nations concluded that frustrated parents, teachers and doctors were too quick to stick a label of ADD onto children with behavioral problems (or, to be more accurate, to children whose behavioral was annoying the parents, teachers and doctors).

Less Than Enthusiastic

I am less than enthusiastic about this drug. In my view, the world would be a healthier place if all supplies of this wretched drug were wrapped in concrete and buried in the rubble of the headquarters of the company making the damned stuff.

You might have guessed by now that I wouldn’t prescribe Ritalin for anyone – for anything.

But other doctors clearly don’t agree with me. Some observers have described Ritalin as a drug that can unlock a child’s potential. And although estimates about the number of children taking Ritalin vary in the U.S. alone it has been claimed that up to 12 % of all American boys aged between 6 and 14 are being prescribed Ritalin to treat various behavioral disorders. In 1990 the world wide production of the drug was less than three tones. By 1994 production of the drug had virtually trebled. It is now not unknown for schools to arrange for children to be treated with Ritalin without obtaining parental permission.

It is worth remembering that although doctors, parents and teachers have for over thirty years now been enthusiastically recommending the use of Ritalin (and similar drugs) in the treatment of MBD there are still a number of unanswered questions.

We still do not know whether the drug works and nor do we know whether it causes any permanent long term damage. We do not know whether the listed potential side effects do more damage than any possible good the drug might do. And, perhaps most astonishing of all, despite the fact that millions of children have been diagnosed as suffering from ADHD, ADD or MBD, and treated with powerful drugs, we do not even know whether any of these conditions – or hyperactivity – really exist.

Back in 1970 the Committee on Government Operations of the U.S. House of Representatives studied the use of behaviour modification drugs on children. At that time around 200,000 to 300,000 children a year in the U.S. were being given these drugs and the point was then made that hyperactivity is considered a disease because it makes it difficult for schools to be run `like maximum security prisons, for the comfort and the convenience of the teachers and administrators who work in them…’.

Since then the only thing that has changed is that the popularity of Ritalin has continued to rise and rise and rise inexorably.

Prescribing Ritalin is, in my view, authorized child abuse on a massive, global scale.

But it is clear that the prescribing of powerful mind altering drugs for small children is big business.

In the US the use of antidepressants and stimulants among toddlers aged between two and four tripled between 1991 and 1995. The period between birth and four years of age is a time of great change in the human body. Most importantly it is a time when the brain is maturing. Heaven knows what effect these drugs have on those tiny developing brains.

Ritalin is now widely prescribed for toddlers. So are many other antidepressants, stimulants and other powerful drugs. Remember: typical symptoms of this alleged disease include `restlessness’ and `inattentiveness’.

I am delighted that my protests and complaints about these absurd and obscene prescribing habits have drawn a number of vicious complaints from doctors.

In my view every doctor who prescribes such drugs for children with alleged ADHD should be defrocked, given a good thrashing with genetically engineered stinging nettles and forced to emigrate to the USA.

The Truth Behind Brain Scans

Study’s failure to report on the crucial comparison between unmedicated and medicated ADHD subjects.

2004 The Institute of Mind and Behavior, Inc.

The Journal of Mind and Behavior Spring 2004, Volume 25, Number 2

Pages 161-166

ISSN 0271-0137

An Update on ADHD Neuroimaging Research

David Cohen Florida International University and Jonathan Leo Lake Erie College of Osteopathic Medicine Bradenton

Since the publication of a critical review on ADHD neuroimaging in a past issue of this journal (Leo and Cohen, 2003), several relevant studies have appeared, including one study that had a subgroup of unmedicated ADHD children (Sowell, Thompson, Welcome, Henkenius, Toga, and Peterson, 2003). In this update to our earlier review we comment on this last study’s failure to report on the crucial comparison between unmedicated and medicated ADHD subjects. The issue of prior medication exposure in ADHD subjects constitutes a serious confound in this body of research, and still continues to be dismissed and willfully obscured by researchers in this field.

In a previous issue of this journal, we reviewed the attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) neuroimaging research (Leo and Cohen, 2003). We pointed out the difficulty in drawing meaningful conclusions from this body of research because of a significant confounding variable: prior or current medication use by the ADHD patients. As we documented, in the large majority of ADHD neuroimaging studies, researchers have compared brain scans from normal control subjects to brain scans from medicated ADHD subjects. This makes it difficult to know if between-group differences reported by researchers might result from an idiopathic organic brain defect – as implied or stated in most studies – or from brain changes resulting from prior drug use by the subjects diagnosed with ADHD. Critics over the past decade pointed out that prior medication use constitutes an important potential confounding variable that limits the validity of these studies, but most researchers have continued to use medicated patients in their studies, sometimes without acknowledgement of the issue.

Despite the dismissal of the issue of prior medication use in published reports, the issue must have been quite sensitive in the minds of researchers nonetheless. Indeed, immediately upon the publication of a large study (n=291) by Castellanos, Lee, Sharp, Jeffries, Greenstein and Clasen (2002), that included a subset of ADHD patients who had never taken medication, the sponsor of that study, the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), released a press briefing declaring: “Brain Shrinkage in ADHD Not Caused by Medications” (NIMH, 2002). This announcement rested on results of a subgroup comparison between 103 medicated and 49 unmedicated ADHD subjects, which found that, just like their medicated peers, unmedicated youths also demonstrated statistically significant smaller brain volumes than normal control subjects. There was no mention in this study about the specifics of the medication history of the medicated children. In our earlier review (Leo and Cohen, 2003) we discussed several problems with the Castellanos et al. study. The following is a brief summary of that discussion:

On average the unmedicated ADHD subjects were two years younger than the medicated ADHD subjects.

The unmedicated ADHD subjects were stated to be shorter and lighter than the normal controls but precise figures on height and weight were not provided.

No details were given about previous treatment histories of the medicated ADHD subjects, such as duration, dose, or even what drug or drugs were prescribed.

Since our review appeared, several ADHD neuroimaging studies have been published. Unfortunately, by failing to exercise appropriate control over the variable of prior medication, these studies perpetuate the confusion and uncertainty that, we argued, characterizes findings in this body of research. For example, Mostofsky, Cooper, Kates, Denckla, and Kaufmann (2002) had 12 ADHD subjects in their study, ten of whom had a prior history of medication.

MacMaster, Carrey, Sparkes, and Kusumakar (2003) entitled their study “Proton Spectroscopy in Medication-Free Pediatric Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder,” yet eight of their 9 ADHD subjects had a prior history of medication: three stopped taking their medication 48 hours before the scan, and five stopped taking it one to 3 weeks before the scan. Taking medicated ADHD subjects off their medication before the imaging and then classifying them as “medication-free” is unsound. We cannot emphasize enough that a study wishing to reach conclusions about the neuropathology of ADHD needs to recruit a control group of medication-na ve subjects, especially given the well-documented neuropathological effects of psychotropic medication (Leo and Cohen, 2003).

In our view, the most significant recent report was of a relatively large study involving 27 ADHD and 46 normal control subjects, conducted by the Laboratory of Neuroimaging at the University of California, Los Angeles (LONI). Sowell, Thompson, Welcome, Henkenius, Toga, and Peterson (2003) reported that the ADHD children had smaller frontal lobes compared to normal controls subjects, but overall the ADHD subjects had more cortical grey matter. In our view, this study’s significance derives not necessarily from this result, but – as with several previous ADHD neuroimaging studies – from important comparisons that researchers could have made, but did not.

As in the Castellanos et al. (2002) study, some of the ADHD subjects in the Sowell et al. (2003) study were apparently medication-na ve. We say “apparently” because specific descriptions were not provided: “15 of the 27 patients were taking stimulant medication at the time of imaging” (p. 1705). It is unclear how to categorize the remaining 12 patients. Did they have a history of medication and then stop taking it for 48 hours, or some other arbitrary time period, before imaging? It surprises us that a study published in Lancet could be so vague about one of the most important variables in the study.

Conclusions based on a comparison of normal control subjects to medication- na ve ADHD subjects would be very different than conclusions based on a comparison of control subjects to ADHD subjects with varying durations of medication exposure and with some patients undergoing abrupt withdrawal.

The issue becomes considerably more muddled and confusing due to a brief discussion of the potential role of stimulant medication on their findings at the end of Sowell et al.’s (2003) paper. The authors first appropriately acknowledged that, since 55% of their ADHD children were taking stimulants, “the effects of stimulant drugs could have confounded our findings of abnormal brain morphology in children with [ADHD]” (p. 1705). The simplest way to properly evaluate this confounding effect would have been to compare the 15 medicated ADHD children with the 12 unmedicated ADHD children. However, Sowell et al. consciously chose to not make that comparison: “We did not directly compare brain morphology across groups of patients on and off drugs because the sample size was considerably compromised when taking lifetime history of stimulant drugs into account” (p. 1705).

The authors further explain that this comparison, between unmedicated and medicated ADHD children, is not needed because a prior study by Castellanos et al. (2002) suggested that medications do not affect brain size [a contention which ignores the problems we identified in our lengthy review].

Sowell et al.’s methodological choice, and its justification, is both unconvincing and puzzling. First, although one can obviously sympathize with their judgment that “taking lifetime history of stimulant drugs into account” compromised their sample size, this judgment ignores that for thirty years ADHD neuroimaging researchers have deemed it perfectly acceptable to compare ADHD subjects and normal controls regardless of medication history (Leo and Cohen, 2003). Indeed, virtually all the studies Sowell et al. cite to contextualize their study and interpret their results exemplify this practice. Thus, it is difficult to see why Sowell et al. would feel that they should not compare medicated and unmedicated ADHD subjects. Clearly, just as they acknowledged limitations to their main study results, Sowell et al. could obviously have reported the results of the more specific comparison with an acknowledgement of appropriate limitations.

Second, Sowell et al. cite Castellanos et al. to support the methodological choice of not comparing medicated and unmedicated ADHD subjects. But, Castellanos et al. made that very comparison regardless of medication history!

Third, and most important, Sowell et al.’s data appear directly relevant to either support or refute the conclusions that Castellanos et al. (2002) drew from their comparison. Put another way, the results of Castellanos et al.’s comparison of brain volumes of medicated and unmedicated ADHD children were deemed worthy of a major press release by the NIMH concerning stimulant drugs’ effects on developing brains, yet the same comparison in the Sowell et al. study is considered insignificant and not even reportable.1 For the above reasons, we suspect that the comparison of medicated with unmedicated ADHD subjects in Sowell et al.’s study might have produced results that would have diluted the findings that Sowell et al. chose to emphasize instead.

Following the publication of the Sowell et al. (2003) study, the media paid significant attention to it. In one interview, the study’s last author stated: “The next phase of the work will be to see whether the magnitude of the abnormalities in these individuals might influence the course of the condition, their response to medication, and which medications different children respond to” (cited in Edelson, 2003, italics added). We assume that this next phase of investigation will involve a comparison of medicated with unmedicated children – but how this will differ from their previous study, or from most ADHD neuroimaging studies, remains completely unclear.

Discussion:

In our earlier review (Leo and Cohen, 2003) we discussed our concern about the careless or distorted way that imaging results were often reported in the sci-1Following the publication of the Sowell et al. study, we corresponded with the lead author who graciously answered our queries but expressed no interest in comparing brain volume data of medicated and unmedicated ADHD children. A month before submitting the current article for publication, we communicated with all authors of the Sowell et al. study, asking them to share the data to allow us to make the stated comparison, but received no reply.

Scientific literature, professional publications and the media. In several discussions with imaging researchers since our review appeared, we have heard repeatedly that the media is the culprit when it comes to “reading too much” into a study. However, examples of oversimplification abound within the professional and scientific literature. For instance, in a recent article about the Castellanos et al. study on the Internet site Medscape, excerpted from the 2004 Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Meeting, the author declares: “On an anatomic level, total cerebral volume is approximately 3% smaller in youth with ADHD” (Gutman, 2004). It is hard to conceive of a more fitting example of a complex study being presented in an overly simplistic manner.

Gutman discusses no problems or limitations of the Castellanos study; she simply asserts to a huge audience of clinicians that it is a fact that ADHD children have smaller brains. The website includes a test that clinicians can take after reading the article if they wish to earn continuing medical education credits, and one of the questions reads: “When looking at ADHD and cerebral volume in children, researchers have found . . . ” – and the “correct” answer is given as: “Total cerebral volume is approximately 3% smaller in youth with ADHD.” It is deeply troubling to us that a professional society can propagate such a statement based on a single study with major limitations. Ruling out the effects of psychotropic medication is merely one of the tasks confronting researchers conducting neuroimaging research with ADHD patients. Even if the field accomplishes this task, several other important tasks remain. One of these will involve trying to make sense of findings of brain abnormalities or differences among some individuals diagnosed with ADHD.

And in this task, a few observations will deserve serious consideration, though they are very rarely discussed in the ADHD neuroimaging literature. One exception is an article by Rubia (2002), from which we find it useful to quote at some length, despite our disagreement with the author’s characterization of ADHD as a “disorder”: Neurodevelopmental psychiatric disorders, as opposed to neurodegenerative disorders, are known to be dynamic and are very likely to be even more dynamic than currently assumed . . . . Only about a third of children with ADHD still meet criteria for ADHD in adulthood . . . . A highly dynamic interplay between nature and nurture is likely and the causalities between them may be bi-directional rather than unidirectional.

Until today, it has been erroneously assumed that biological correlates of abnormal behavior are necessarily the cause of brain “basis” of abnormal behavior. Recent reports from neuroscience point towards a much more plastic concept of the brain-behavior relationship with bi-directional causalities . . . . Use-dependent functional and structural reorganization in sensory cortices, for example, has been observed in skilled subjects, pianists and musicians.

Post-traumatic stress disorder in war veterans and victims of child abuse causes smaller hippocampi and abnormal amygdala activation. Amputation studies show that function is necessary for structure to develop. These examples show that behavior, experience, and function can alter and determine brain structure. This has fundamental implications especially for psychiatric research, given that psychiatric disorders are characterized and defined by deviation from normal functioning. (Rubia, 2002, p. 49)

In sum, brain differences (or “abnormalities”) may be related to the state rather than the trait of the syndrome or behavior in question, and this fundamental issue will require immense creativity and rigor to tackle. By comparison, the issue of prior medication is extremely uncomplicated: to rule out effects of medication exposure on brain volume, one simply needs to compare a group of ordinary medicated ADHD patients with a control group of ordinary, age- and weight-matched unmedicated ADHD patients. A single study of this type with no more than 60 subjects could practically settle the question. Unfortunately, given how the ADHD neuroimaging field has so far treated this simple issue, it is doubtful to expect that researchers in this field will make progress on the more significant scientific challenge ahead.

References

Castellanos, F.X., Lee, P.P., Sharp, W., Jeffries, N.O., Greenstein, D.K., and Clasen, L.S. (2002).

Developmental trajectories of brain volume abnormalities in children and adolescents with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder. Journal of the American Medical Association, 288, 1740-1748.

Edelson, E. (2003). Better brain images could lead to better ADHD treatment. Parent Center News Gutman, A. (2004). Introduction to new research: Navigating complex treatment options for ADHD (March 2004). Medscape from WebMD.

464787 Leo, J.L., and Cohen, D. (2003). Broken brains or flawed studies? A critical review of ADHD neuroimaging studies. The Journal of Mind and Behavior, 24, 29-56.

MacMaster, F.P., Carrey, N., Sparkes, S., and Kusumakar, V. (2003). Proton spectroscopy in medication- free pediatric attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. Biological Psychiatry, 53, 184-187.

Mostofsky, S.H., Cooper, K.L., Kates, W.R., Denckla, M.B., and Kaufmann, W.E. (2002). Smaller prefrontal and premotor volumes in boys with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder.

Biological Psychiatry, 52, 785-794. NIMH. (2002). Brain shrinkage in ADHD not caused by medications.

Rubia, K. (2002). The dynamic approach to neurodevelopmental psychiatric disorders: Use of fMRI combined with neuropsychology to elucidate the dynamics of psychiatric disorders, exemplified in ADHD and schizophrenia. Behavioral Brain Research, 130, 47-56.

Sowell, E.R., Thompson, P.M., Welcome, S.E., Henkenius, A.L., Toga, A.W., and Peterson, B.S. (2003). Cortical abnormalities in children and adolescents with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder. The Lancet, 362, 1699-1707.

Request for reprints should be sent to Jonathan Leo, Ph.D., Department of Anatomy, Lake Erie College of Osteopathic Medicine Bradenton, 5000 Lakewood Ranch Blvd, Bradenton, Florida 34211. Jonathan Leo may be reached at jonleo@lecom.edn ; David Cohen may be reached at David.Cohen@fiu.edg

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I’m not sure my story belongs here, but I feel like I can’t supress these feelings any longer

Tuesday, November 10th, 2009

I’m not sure my story belongs here, but I feel like I can’t supress these feelings any longer. I have been wondering whether I have ever been sexually abused for about five years–since I was in 12. Over the years, these feelings have not subsided, they have only gotten worse. It started when I was at the movies one day with one of my friends. They showed a preview for this movie that I found to be somewhat disturbing. There was this scene from the movie they showed where a guy was slowly backing a girl against a wall, asking her to “let him hold her.” The girl starts screaming…and that’s all they showed of that part of the movie. When I saw that, I got this strange feeling in my stomach…it’s very hard to describe, but I hate the way it feels. Ever since then, I’ll get that feeling whenever I see on tv, or hear about sexual abuse. Sometimes when that feeling hits me really hard, I can sometimes feel it in my fingertips, and I sometimes find it hard to breathe. I’ve been seeing a therapist for some time now. My mom sent me because of my habbit of cutting. A few months went by before my therapist asked me if I had ever been sexually abused, and I repeatedly tell her no, but she keeps bringing it up. Whenever she mentions it my heart races and I just shut down. I don’t want to talk about it with her, or anyone really, but I think it might be time to tell someone. I’ve been having these memories come back to me. I remember being in fifth grade, playing with my stuffed animals in a rather sexual way. I remember my mom telling me not to touch my baby brother when I was little…I was only four. I remember being six years old and undressing my younger cousin. I can’t remember what happened, but the last thing was him running down the stairs crying. I quickly put my clothes back on just in time before my aunt (my cousin’s mom) came up the stairs to ask me what happened. She was so mad, and I was so scared. I’m terrified of the possibility that I hurt him in any way. I love him so much, and I was just a little girl, I didn’t know what I was doing. But then I wonder…if I really did do something to him…where did I learn it from? All these thoughts keep circling in my mind, and I feel like I’ll go insane if I don’t tell someone. If anyone out there would like to e-mail me and tell me what they think, I would greatly appreciate it. Everyone here has so much courage and strength, and I wish everyone the best. Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this.
by Alyceon 12 Dec 2004

Resolving Marriage Conflict

Monday, November 9th, 2009

Resolving Marriage Conflict in the Jerry Springer Era

Resolving marriage conflict through communication, dedication and professional guidance may strike most of us as an obvious aspect of not only basic human interaction, but also a healthy and mature manner of conflict management. Yet in the era of easy-out marriages, it seems that the white-picket-fence ideal of a perfect union is being replaced by a manufactured successor in so-called reality television.

Chair-throwing ordeals and staged conflicts seem to draw an uncanny and mildly disturbing fascination from a society mired in a growing divorce rate. But why? Has healthy marriage become less “real” and more conceptual, or is it simply that a gradual desensitization to suffering has allowed this generation of married couples to trade honesty and hard work for the easy way out?

Conflict in marriage is inevitable; it’s the art of resolving marriage conflict that has become degraded by this notion of reality entertainment that vaguely resembles a mix between bad soap opera, Hollywood excess and scripted couples therapy. It’s okay to admit that you can’t solve your marital problems on your own. It’s okay to pursue professional help and intervention before your marriage derails down a path toward a dead end.

It’s disheartening to think that so many of us have forgotten that the path to healthy relationships involves a healthy dose of self-respect, individuality and a willingness to talk out our problems. It seems we would rather allow the twisted trappings of Jerry Springer syndrome and reality television to confuse our better judgment on what marriage should or shouldn’t be.

Conflict management when it comes to marriage isn’t as desperate or hopeless as the ordeals of day-time television portray. In fact, resolving conflict in marriage in many ways means returning to the concepts that helped build a relationship worthy of marriage in the first place. Talk, listen and learn. If these methods fail, then apply the same model with the help and direction provided by a third party who specializes in resolving marriage conflicts. There is no shame in asking for help; nor is there a limit to the importance of remaining open to understanding love and its many challenges.

Hitting a child is wrong

Sunday, November 8th, 2009

Hitting a child is wrong and a child never, ever, under any
circumstances, except literal physical self-defense, should be hit.

Murray A. Straus

Hitting is wrong . Hitting is a violent thing to do. Violence is a thing one person does to make another person hurt. We want to treat children in ways that do not hurt or harm them. We can. We want to be kind and gentle, not harsh. We want to be tender, merciful and compassionate. There is no situation that changes hitting from a wrong thing into a right thing. There is no excuse that magically makes hurting children kind or merciful. This is confusing, though, isn’t it? A law can say that it is all right to do a wrong thing to stop a wrong thing. Hitting, however, is nearly never a better ‘wrong’ thing to do or the ‘lesser of two bad things’. Defense from physical attack, for example, might be less wrong than the physical attack itself. The law sets a limit, though, for this rare situation. The law limits a defense to interrupting or ending the attack upon the physical safety of a person. The laws that also allow the physical punishment of children do not make it a better ‘wrong’ thing to do or the ‘lesser of two bad things’. They only allow it. Hitting children is not tender or compassionate treatment. Hitting children is not better than treating them in ways that do not hurt. We will be kinder, gentler and less violent when we all stop hitting children.

We do not say to our children (most of us, anyway), “hitting is right” or “hitting is a good thing to do.” We do not really believe that it is a good thing to hit people. Most of us are not ‘in favor’ of hitting children. However, many of us (most of us, actually) behave as if it is a good thing to do. We are in favor of spanking and physical punishment. The law attempts to make a physical attack on a child’s body a thing that is all right to do.

The way a spanking looks and feels must be confusing for children. How can they tell what it means? Parents are their example of what is right and good. Parents’ behavior is their example of what love looks and feels like. Hitting a child seems to say that it is all right to hit people… even loved ones. When a person wants to control others, it must be okay to hit them, spanking seems to say. For children whose parents tell them that hitting is wrong, hitting might also seem to say that it is all right to do something that is wrong. It certainly does not show or say to the child what behavior is wanted.

There is no obligation or duty to hit children. No one of us can show that anything bad happens if we do not hit children. No one can show that children become less well behaved if we do not hit them. When people think of not hitting children, however, they often feel afraid and uncertain. What do they fear? Are they just uncomfortable with the unknown or the untried? Do they just doubt what they have not yet experienced? They do not really know that anything bad will happen. It is enough for them, it seems, that they believe that something bad will happen. Since people usually do not really think about many of their beliefs, it is hard to use reason to help them to be unafraid. But there is no evidence that a child whose parents model appropriate behavior, clearly and unambiguously love and nurture that child, diligently encourage and positively reinforce desired behavior, using reason and persuasion while consistently communicating and enforcing limits, and demonstrating a rational process for problem solving, will not “turn out” as well, if not better, than any child held up as the supposed example of the benefit of spanking her or him.

So we have no duty, contract or promise to hit. There is no other social, legal or moral rule that makes us spank our children. We can count upon our friends and family to say that there is a need for a ‘good spanking’. They will tell us that spanking people during their childhood is the cure for society’s ills. They carry tradition and myth, as humans always have, but that does not mean that they know the truth.

Social, legal and moral ties bind us to feed, clothe and shelter our dependent children. We should teach them to behave well in public and to contribute according to their capacity. We should help them to find happiness doing these things. If we do our job well, they become willing and able to give their best to society. There is no need to hit children in order to do our social, legal and moral duty. For example, accepting the responsibilities for a dependent adult might become our social and moral duty. But, we would have no legal right to hit that adult in order to do this duty.

Nothing good forces us to act aggressively toward our minor children. Yet, there seems to be some mistaken, unfounded ’sense of duty’ to do it. I believe that this ’sense’ may be the result of our feeling that other parents in our family or social group know what we should do. As children, we saw our parents and other adults do things that we remember as right and good. &nbspSpanking children is one of those things that we memorized. We copy that behavior with our own children. We think, therefore, that we are surely being a good and proper parent. We are following tradition. However, tradition and morality are separate standards.

Hitting children does not make it easier for us to do our social, legal or moral duty as parents. Hitting them might seem to offer us a sort of shortcut. Hitting them may make it easier, instead, for our children to realize dreadful outcomes; the literal opposites of our goals. The result of spanking is our children’s fear and resentment of us. Satisfaction with spanking could be related to some other need, independent of the child.

Murray Straus is author of Beating the Devil Out of Them: Corporal Punishment in American Families. He wrote, “The most basic step in eliminating corporal punishment is for parent educators, psychologists, and pediatricians to make a simple and unambiguous statement…” That is the statement I have quoted at the top of this page. I agree with it. I like the statement. Most people think that it is too strong. Some have felt that the phrase “except literal physical self-defense” seems to give permission to spanking parents. Professor Straus also suggests that we say, without qualification, “A child should never be hit.” &nbspI believe that afterwards, though, one must prepare to respond to the certain question, “Well, what about the circumstance: self-defense?” But, self-defense is not at all common among the routine responses to our children’s behavior. Defense of self indeed!

Professor Straus explained to me that he too could recognize that there is a certain danger in “except for self-defense.” He thought that it was, in part, his training in criminology that led to his writing it the way he did. He explained that many people misunderstand the legal concept of self defense and think that retaliation is self defense. Of course, self defense becomes a legal justification for assault only if the person is in danger of serious injury or death and cannot get away. He said, “If a child hits a parent, they can and should restrain the child if it continues, but they should never hit back.” In his own opinion, the parents should make a big deal out of any instance of a child hitting. It should be treated as a moral outrage and something to never be done again. He said, “Hitting back is not self defense.” Legally, an adult who is attacked and hits back may also be guilty of assault.

It concerns me that the quotation risks deafening listeners so that they hear nothing that follows it. I live and write, and ‘mingle’ among the people of Arkansas, USA. It is a spank-happy place where it is “open season” on children–in their homes as well as in their schools. Our children stand a one-in-seven chance of being hit by an adult at school, so Arkansas ranks “worst” among the ten worst school-paddling states.

Still, “never hit” is the phrase to which most of the provoked readers respond. Realistically, the people I engage all want to know “What if you’re attacked or assaulted by a juvenile delinquent?” I believe that there has to be an exception. There almost always is. Perhaps ‘except’ is permissive. This exception, of course, is always some extreme, bizarre and unlikely occurrence. In such a crisis, however, people do what they are going to do for no certain reason. Anticipation rarely has anything to do with the outcome. Besides, most parents really are not parenting armed juveniles. How realistic is it to expect to have to hit your child to save your life or protect your self from serious physical threat — literal physical self-defense?

LITERAL, PHYSICAL, SELF-DEFENSE … The exception only barely warrants noting. So, my inconsistency is that I also agree with the “too soft” critics. I have been around a lot of violence, threats of serious harm to my family, our property and myself. I do not hit any children. I worked in child welfare (child protective services, foster care, adoptions, interstate transfers) in Phoenix. I worked the pediatric outpatient clinic at the indigent care hospital in Phoenix and conducted interviews with child abusers (some suicidal and homicidal). I worked nearly ten years in the pediatric department and the ER of a large hospital here in Little Rock.

I am not through with living so it would be disingenuous to make a statement so absolute that I could not realistically expect to live by it. But I can state, unambiguously, that hitting a child is wrong and a child never, ever, under any circumstances should be hit.

I’m not sure my story belongs here, but I feel like I can’t supress these feelings any longer

Saturday, November 7th, 2009

I’m not sure my story belongs here, but I feel like I can’t supress these feelings any longer. I have been wondering whether I have ever been sexually abused for about five years–since I was in 12. Over the years, these feelings have not subsided, they have only gotten worse. It started when I was at the movies one day with one of my friends. They showed a preview for this movie that I found to be somewhat disturbing. There was this scene from the movie they showed where a guy was slowly backing a girl against a wall, asking her to “let him hold her.” The girl starts screaming…and that’s all they showed of that part of the movie. When I saw that, I got this strange feeling in my stomach…it’s very hard to describe, but I hate the way it feels. Ever since then, I’ll get that feeling whenever I see on tv, or hear about sexual abuse. Sometimes when that feeling hits me really hard, I can sometimes feel it in my fingertips, and I sometimes find it hard to breathe. I’ve been seeing a therapist for some time now. My mom sent me because of my habbit of cutting. A few months went by before my therapist asked me if I had ever been sexually abused, and I repeatedly tell her no, but she keeps bringing it up. Whenever she mentions it my heart races and I just shut down. I don’t want to talk about it with her, or anyone really, but I think it might be time to tell someone. I’ve been having these memories come back to me. I remember being in fifth grade, playing with my stuffed animals in a rather sexual way. I remember my mom telling me not to touch my baby brother when I was little…I was only four. I remember being six years old and undressing my younger cousin. I can’t remember what happened, but the last thing was him running down the stairs crying. I quickly put my clothes back on just in time before my aunt (my cousin’s mom) came up the stairs to ask me what happened. She was so mad, and I was so scared. I’m terrified of the possibility that I hurt him in any way. I love him so much, and I was just a little girl, I didn’t know what I was doing. But then I wonder…if I really did do something to him…where did I learn it from? All these thoughts keep circling in my mind, and I feel like I’ll go insane if I don’t tell someone. If anyone out there would like to e-mail me and tell me what they think, I would greatly appreciate it. Everyone here has so much courage and strength, and I wish everyone the best. Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this.
by Alyceon 12 Dec 2004

It was good for me to read your stories today

Friday, November 6th, 2009

It was good for me to read your stories today…and as I read I took many long deep breaths and sent so many of you deep and profound love from the center of my soul. “I remember that”, I mumbled to myself again and again. And it was good to remember..for it has been almost 6 years since I had my first flashback. And today…today I needed to go back..if only for a brief moment.. and acknowledge what happened to me..because believe it or not, there will come a time when the memories don’t rule over you and you have happiness beyond possible belief..and you almost FORGET.
I was sexually abused from age 3 to age 11 by my father. I repressed most of it but when my first child turned 3, I was flooded with flashbacks..literally thinking I was losing my mind. My father,the bastard, took my virginity at age 7, forced me orally to orgasm hundreds of times, choked me repeatedly with his penis in my mouth and down my throat, used foreign objects to penetrate me, and in the end sodomized me. He threatened to kill my mother if I told and controlled every aspect of my life. After the abuse ended, (I got my period and I think he was afraid of pregnancy)I also found myself, as many of you have, in a series of abusive relationships that further continued my pain. I also married an abusive man who sexually abused me.
And the reason I am sharing all of this is because, I am, today, at the threshold of the most amazing things in my life and found myself almost afraid of the goodness, and realized perhaps I am afraid because most of my life has been lived in fear,torment, shame, guilt, and undescribeable pain.
So as I am standing in all this goodness and feeling anxious, a small voice from within told me..”This is your reward”. This is your reward for the months of “wanting to crawl in a whole and die”, of not being able to get out of bed,or eat, or take a shower, of forcing myself to go to group and to see my counselor, of crying each morning in desperation that I was still alive.. because I swore I would die in my sleep from the pain. My reward for all of the flashbacks I didn’t push away, but allowed to wash over me, for the feelings and experiences I bravely shared with my group. (Utter the words and it becomes painfully real, yes?) For the body memories (having to reach down because I swore there was a penis inside of me), for the constant feeling of nausea, for the complete void that exisited instead of my soul. For the strength and courage it took to leave my abusive husband and be FREE from abuse once and for all. For the strength to take control of my life and learn to live as a survivor, instead of a victim.

And I am here today to say there is HOPE. That you will not only function, but thrive.

I have recreated my life into one I have always dreamed of having. I live in a beautiful apartment with beautiful things, I have a job I love, am going to school, and have had some of the most amazing moments. I have danced cajun under the stars on a summer’s night, I have walked in the sun and picked wildflowers, I have swam in the ocean, I have had outrageous sex in a field of wild flowers, (yes..you will actually WANT to have sex again…and it will be beyond what you ever imagined), I have had hundreds of nights of quiet, restful sleep, and I have been bathed in a clawfoot bathtub filled with rose petals and read from my favorite book while I sipping champagne!
And I promise you, if you press on in your healing,(go to a GOOD counselor or group, journal, and read about how to heal from sexual abuse) that you will have a full and beautifully rich life of love and goodness. And you will not only live, but THRIVE. You will LOVE life, savor it, and bring numerous sacred and loving things into your heart.
I know it seems impossible right now…the pain..it swallows you whole..you can hardly breathe sometimes…and you feel like it is written on your forehead.. “I have been sexually abused”. You can’t escape it. But you can go through it..one step at a time. Try. Try one thing each day to take care of yourself. Comb your hair, go for a walk, eat something that tastes really good, see a funny movie, or buy yourself a new top. Reward yourself for talking about that flashback you had last night with your counselor. Reward yourself for every step you take. Once you are feeling better, I would also recommend an exercise class or yoga..it helps you reconnect with your body again.

And there’s one more thing.

By doing all of this healing..you will no longer attract men into your life that will abuse you. And if they happend to waltz by, you can spot them immediately. But in order to do this..you must educate yourself and heal from the trauma of the abuse. Put YOU first! And if you have a heart to love another, he will find you.

I wish you PEACE..

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