by David Powlison

In this article, David Powlison takes a close look at those things that destroy intimacy in marriage and using the parable of the sower shows how the same things that create distance in our relationship with God, also create distance in our marriages. Then he explains how your marriage can be renewed through a renewed relationship with God.

You started out telling each other everything. Time flew by when you were together. You listened intently when 1 Corinthians 13 was read at your wedding. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy…” you nodded your head. It all seemed so easy then.

But now you have nothing to say to each other. The intimacy and trust you once enjoyed are gone—replaced by bickering, long silences, and hurried conversations about your schedules.

WHY DO MARRIAGES BECOME DISTANT?

Marriage is the most intimate of relationships. When a man and woman marry, they are meant to be one in heart and mind. God calls this being “one flesh.” Why do two people who have pledged to be faithful, kind, and loving to one another become separate?

Long ago in the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve enjoyed perfect intimacy with God and with each other. But when they disobeyed God, their intimate relationship with him and with each other was destroyed. When you think about it, you’ll notice that the way you treat your spouse reflects the way you treat God. The same things that cause distance in your relationship with God cause distance in your relationship with your spouse.

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