• by Efoghor Joseph Ezie
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Sex is one of the gifts God has given to couples to enjoy their marriage and promote the intimacy between them. However, marriage could sometimes experience sexual problems or difficulties that make the partners to be unease. Some of these problems include:

1. Past traumatic sex experience: A woman who has experienced severe pain or trauma during sex in the past (especially as a result of rape or sexual violence) before marriage is likely to suffer from sexual problems when married. She is going to find it very difficult to adapt to sex in her marriage.
2. Disease: Certain diseases can make the act of sexual intercourse a difficult one especially if such disease is not properly treated. Diseases like gonorrhoea could produce pains in males while herpes could cause pains also in females.
3. Lack of privacy: Women particularly don’t enjoy sex when privacy is not guaranteed. If there is no adequate privacy provided before sex the woman would find it very difficult to relax during the act and this invariably affects her lubrication and in the long run she is unable to reach orgasm.
4. Alcohol: The use of alcoholic beverage could interfere with sexual enjoyment because alcohol is known to reduce sensation.
5. Hormones: Certain hormones like oestrogen play some roles in the female to ensure the vagina remains regularly wet; but with the onset of menopause these hormones production may be reduced leading to dryness in the vagina thereby making sex less enjoyable.
6. Misconceptions about sex: Some people grew up with certain misconceptions about sex that sex is a taboo; that sex should not be enjoyed; that only promiscuous women enjoy sex, etc and when they become married this mindset becomes difficult to change.
7. Anger: This can be energy sapping and could as well make it difficult for one to relax during sex.
8. Psychological problems: One who has some kind of psychological problems would definitely not be in the best state of mind to enjoy sex. Even when such person tries to please the spouse there would be no concentration during the act.
9. Fears: When one nurses fears in him/her it would be difficult also to relax and enjoy coitus.
10. Broken home: One who is a product of a broken home carries with him/her some mental pictures from the parents into marriage and find it difficult to enjoy sex, especially if he/she still nurses a grudge against the parents.
11. Nicotine: This is also known to interfere with blood flow and sexual enjoyment.
12. Bullying/Nagging: When a spouse bullies or nags, the partner loses interest in him/her and this invariably affects their sexual enjoyment.

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