Why do people get married? If you ask 100 random people this question their likely reply will be “because they love each other”; but is that really the reason people get married? Do people get married because they love each other or do they get married so the man can prove he loves the woman? marriage is the ultimate proof of love, at least so it’s considered. If a man is willing to give up his freedom to become legally bound and obligated to a woman then he must love her. Even if it is the woman who proposes, accepting and going through with the marriage is still an act of the man officially giving up his single status to prove his love and commitment to the woman. But with the state of marriage being what it is the world is well aware that a marriage certificate does not prove love or commitment. There are plenty of unmarried men who are more loyal and more committed to their girlfriends than many married men to their wives.

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Is Marriage Becoming a Thing of the Past?

Traditionally, for a man and woman to live together, have children, and commingle assets, they must get married.  Marriage has been not only a legal institution, but also a religious one.  Today, many women are financially independent and couples decide that they don’t want to have children.  The church doesn’t govern quite the way it used to; what was a sin in the past is barely even noticed today.  Take divorce for example, over the decades the divorce rate has increased drastically, likely due to the loosening of the stigma associated with it.  These societal changes in regards to marriage and cohabitation begs the question, do most of us really need marriage anymore?

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POLL – Marriage:  a thing of the past?

A new study by the Pew Research Center and Time Magazine says that marriage is becoming obsolete.

When asked what constitutes a family, the vast majority of Americans agree that a married couple, with or without children, fits that description.  But four of five surveyed pointed also to an unmarried, opposite-sex couple with children or a single parent.  Three of five people said a same-sex couple with children was a family.

I have to say I’m a little disappointed with the majority of the comments on here. When did everyone become so cynical. I just got married this summer and I did it because I loved this woman to death and never wanted to be with out her. “…tremendous losses of money and property after a divorce make marriage less attractive.” That’s the last reason I married my wife. If one day she decided to leave me and wanted half of our stuff I’d gladly pay, because all I want is her happiness and I know she feels the same way. Should people get married because a child is brought into the equation, not necessarily but maybe you should decide if that person is worth spending the rest of you life with before you hop in the sack. Should gays be afforded the right to marry? Absolutely, if to people love each other and want to be together physically, legally, spiritually, who am I to say no. I, in large part blame our consumerism for many of the moral declines in this country. We can have any number of features on our cars, upgrade the choices on our fast food meals and add as many bells and whistles to all of life’s choices as we want. Eventually the permeated its way into our personal lives. Now when we’re “bored” with our family and want an “upgrade” we feel it’s our right to do so because you should “have it your way.” Well sorry, but somethings in life are bigger than your whiny ass little ego so please for all our sake’s lets start to put real consideration to the major choices we make in life and be more positive because it’s the negativity and selfish choices we’ve ALL been making that have put us where we are…we have no one to blame but ourselves. Thank you and have a wonderful day!

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Tips to Survive Infidelity in Your Marriage

Should You Forgive a Cheating Spouse?

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• Affairs and infidelity

Every marriage goes through its own cycle of ups and downs. While most of these small hiccups are usually easy to sort out once the partners get down to it, infidelity gives rise to much graver issues. Trust is the foundation of a marriage, and when an unfaithful partner strikes a blow at the underlying base, the whole structure of marriage is in danger of collapse.

Infidelity in a marriage has not only personal and moral consequences, but also legal implications. Marriage is ultimately a contract between two willing parties – to love, support and trust each other through happy as well as adverse circumstances. When either party violates the contract in the form of adultery, it suffices as a ground for divorce. Every divorce brings with it its own share of trauma, for the couple as well as for the kids. There may, be however, some circumstances in which you could forgive a straying spouse and give your marriage another chance.

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Dealing with Infidelity

by Louella Vaz

• Affairs and infidelity

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When infidelity occurs, it is one of the most painful experiences a relationship will probably ever experience. When one partner is unfaithful, it can shatter a relationship and leave the other person wondering whether it is worth salvaging. Dealing with infidelity in a relationship requires tremendous resolve on the part of the betrayed party. How do you let go of the past? How do you justify or understand why your spouse felt the need to cheat on you? Knowing where to start is often the most difficult thing.

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Once the affair is out in the open, either because your partner has come clean, or you have found out, how will you go about resolving it? How you deal with infidelity in your relationship has a lot to do with your feelings about your partner and your marriage.

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5 Strategies For Getting Couples to Reconnect

by Louise Baker

Troubled couples can reconnect with a little effort. Below are five strategies for beginning the reconnection process. These are meant to get the ball rolling, and to be used in conjunction with each other. It is import to remember that for any couple to reconnect and for a relationship to be healed, each party must want for that to happen.

Daily Communication

Make it a point to speak kindly to your other half daily. Think of at least one nice thing to say, and sincerely say it, every morning and every night. This is two nice things everyday. You can also find ways to sneak in communication throughout the day. Send a complimentary note, text, or e-mail, or post something nice about your other half on Facebook or Twitter for the world to see. It may seem forced at first, but the idea is to remind yourselves why you fell in love with the other person in the first place.

Daily Touch

Make it a point to touch each other everyday. This may need to start small, depending on the state of your relationship, but that is okay. Begin with a hand on a shoulder or brushing against the other in the hallway. Maybe holding hands in the car or a sweet kiss on the cheek will be called for. Humans are hardwired to crave physical touch from other humans. In conjunction with the other strategies listed here, this could build into something much more intense, even if it must start out small.

Regular Time Together

Generically, this is a “date night.” However, it does not have to be a traditional date. The point is to plan to spend time together and then do it. Whether is be a shared interest such as a ballgame or trip to a museum, or a simple night at home with coffee and a rented movie or favorite show, schedule regular time together and stick with it. If a weekly date isn’t possible, shoot for at least bi-weekly, at a mutually convenient time which is the least stressful for both parties. If this is awkward at first, it is fine to start out in public places to ease the tension. However, be sure to move out of this comfort zone eventually and get some quality, one on one time together without distractions.

Therapy

This does not have to be a last ditch effort, and there is no shame in it. If you have trouble connecting as a couple, a couple’s counselor can help you work through that and aid in communication. This can help get to the root of the problem and clear out anything that may be keeping you from connecting on a deeper level.

Louise Baker blogs about getting an online degree at Zen College Life. Her most recent post looked at the top 10 nursing schools.