What is Needed for a Successful Marriage

by rgeorgi

What is Needed for a Successful Marriage

Marriages are crumbling in America. There are many reasons why marriages are failing and it would be impossible to name all of those reasons here. Times are changing and people’s concept of marriage has changed. Some people are waking up to the fact that they were probably better off single. Some chose an incompatible mate but chose to have a family and stayed with their mates. Many people chose to be married but live separate lives. Whatever the case, marriages are definitely on the rocks.
The family unit is giving into the pressures of society as far as how relationships are. On television, most families are characterized as being schizophrenic, sex crazed or having serious problems with extended family members. This has an effect on American society in which television has distorted what the family should be striving for which is an element of understanding, harmony or peace.

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5 golden rules to successful marriage

Mark Dombeck, Ph.D. Updated: May 16th 2006

In order to best understand how a marriage can come apart, it is helpful first to understand some of the ways that healthy marriages are structured, and how they function.

Healthy marriage partners are compatible partners

In a marriage that is to stand the test of time, romance is important, but compatibility is critical. By and large, partners in healthy marriages come to agree upon common agendas regarding the directions their marriage will take, and the way each partner will behave. These common agreements may never have been discussed, but they will be present implicitly in how each partner chooses to act.

Areas of agreement that partners will have dealt with will generally include:

• Friendship. Successful partners develop a significant friendship at the core of their relationship. They genuinely like one another, amuse and comfort one another, and prefer to spend time with each other. This friendship and mutual liking is somewhat separate from other aspects of the relationship (sexuality, for instance), and can survive the loss of these other aspects of the relationship. A strong friendship and mutual liking is often the basis for repair of troubled relationships.

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12 ‘Improve Marriage’ Tips – Go from Good to Great

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Divorce is a heart wrenching, life-altering event that will completely change you forever. If you’re searching for advice on how to save a marriage, I commend you.

Saving something that you’ve built together with your mate is a noble cause, and everyone in a relationship needs help from time to time. Even if your marriage is good, you can improve marriage by following these 12 simple steps.

These 12 Essential Tips will help you improve marriage today.

1. Get Educated – Don’t just guess your way through this. Learn from people who have studied this extensively and save yourself a lot of trouble. There are many excellent products available on how to save a marriage, and we even review the best of the best for you here.

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15 Successful Marriage Tips Happy Couples Live By

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[Married? Divorced? About to Get Hitched? – This will be the best thing you read all week. Guaranteed. Grab a cup of coffee and let’s jump in]

You have heard that a successful marriage takes hard work. While this is true, people seem to have an aversion to the word “work,” so let’s see if we can frame this a little bit differently.

A successful marriage takes energy, and this does not necessarily have to be drudgery. It really boils down to your outlook and philosophy of marriage.

As it turns out, your outlook and philosophy are under your complete control. That being the case, I’ve put together a list that will give you some perspective about your marriage.

In these 15 successful marriage tips, we’ll discuss a variety of time-tested principles that have been used through generations of countless successful marriages. If you apply just 10% of the successful marriage tips here, I can virtually guarantee that you have a better marriage.

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So let’s dig in, here are the 15 successful marriage tips:

(1) – Don’t Worry About What Other People Think

Your marriage is just that: yours. You have the right to do with it what you will, it’s your masterpiece. We all spend so much time worrying about what other people think, but you know what other people are thinking about? They’re worried about what you think of them! Don’t spend too much energy trying to conform to some

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Most of us are probably allured by the attractive notion that effortless relationships exist. Whether it be happily-ever-after marriages, or friendships which last forever, or parent/child bonds which supercede the need to understand each other, we’d all like to believe that our most intimate relationships are unconditional, and strong enough to withstand whatever may come. However, at some point in our lives most of us need to face the fact that relationships require effort to keep them strong and positive, and that even wonderful, strong relationships can be destroyed by neglect.

Whether you’re looking to improve a love relationship, familial relationships, friendships, or employer/employee relationships, understanding your own personality type and the personality type of the other person involved in the relationship will bring a new dynamic to the situation, which will allow better understanding and communication. Although the different types of relationships have very different characteristics and specific needs, there are two basic areas which seem to be critical in all relationships: Expectations and Communication. What do we expect from ourselves and the other person involved in the relationship? How do we communicate these expectations, and our feelings and opinions to the person in the relationship? How does our personality type affect our expectations and methods of communication? Does our personality type affect who we are romantically attracted to? How does it affect who our friends are, and who we work with best? These are the questions which we address in this section of The Personality Page.

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Marriage & Relationship Advice : How to Find a Marriage Counselor

Finding A Good Therapist or Marriage Counselor

Finding a Good Marriage Counselor

How do you think — can a marriage counselor help? Some people think that it is really easy to work on marriage issues but there are such situations where it is necessary to turn to a professional. A really good counselor can provide you special tools and ways who to improve your communication and relations in family in general, how to solve existing problems and avoid possible difficulties. Moreover turning to a counselor can be considered as try to build a happy marriage. This professional usually faces to such problems as money issues, difficulties with sex life and many others which usual couples often face to in their common everyday life.

What are the most popular reasons why people decide to use help of counselor?

1. People want to learn how to deal in a better way with strong emotions that are connected with marriage problems.

2. Some people come to find a way to a happy marriage.

3. Many people would like to know how to solve problems and negative issues in a marriage.

There are couples which can cope with their problems themselves, control their emotions, work out solutions and tools for these problems without help of any professional. All couples really should try to develop their own techniques before turning for a help of marriage counselor. There are such situations where it is necessary to turn to a specialist because couples cannot deal with their difficulties themselves and any problem is not going to disappear itself.

What should one pay attention to looking for a marriage counselor?

One can easily look for a marriage counselor in a phone book or ask for advice from a doctor, friends or anybody else. The last way is the best one because one will see the consequences of the work of exact marriage counselor. If the relationships of one’s friend or relative couple improved it would be right to turn for help exactly to this doctor.

On another side one should be very attentive and choose a counselor wisely. One of the points which should be paid attention to is that this person (counselor we mean) must be comfortable to talk and communicate with as for a woman as for a man otherwise he/she will not help. So both of the couple should decide who they will turn to.

We want to point that it is very important to check up if this or that marriage counselor has all documents as license or certifications which allow him/her to realize the activities in marriage and family counseling.

Every marriage counselor need to have a current license in his/her field of activities such as marriage and family therapy. In every state or country there are special own rules determined licensing of all doctors and counselors. In general every marriage counselor need to have so called Master of Doctorate degree, documents which can prove that this person has passed training courses in family and marriage therapy and certain time experience. The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) is a special department which license by its own requirements all marriage counselors.

Every such specialist can set up own clinic or office, can work in a governmental organization, can be in a health clinic, hospital etc. How to find a good specialist? Well, the first way is to ask one’s doctor for good appropriate candidates, the second is to ask own relatives and friends if they have somebody who can help. There are many other variants such as insurance company, local government organizations and one can just look for a marriage counselor in a phone book.

How to choose and to check up if a marriage counselor is exactly good? One should ask some questions such as:

1. What official documents as licenses do you have?

2. Do you affiliate with any special professional organizations?

3. What professional degrees do you have?

4. How long have you been working as marriage counselor?

5. How many couples with our specific problems had you during your carrier?

6. What are your fees?

7. How often will we meet and how long will the therapy last?

8. Can we start from this moment or in the nearest future or we will have to wait some time?

How much does marriage counseling cost?

There are many marriage counselors which are paid in a different way. One can pay nearly $50-$200 for session but ne should know that the average price per one hour in about $100. Every couple in average will visit a marriage counselor once a week and about three months so the whole course is going to cost nearly $1200. We will repeat that this is the average cost — some people will spend mole, some — less. There are couple which are necessary to visit a marriage counselor during for a year or even more. So the total cost in such cases will raise but it will be small price for those who want to save marriage and avoid a divorce.

When one compares the importance of marriage saving and a cost of a marriage counselor services one will pay any money to have or to save a happy marriage and family. Now everyone clearly understands that family and dear people are more important in our life than any money and goods. In fact, after visiting a marriage counselor and after family situation changing people start to work together, and their financial life improves.

Some people are necessary to visit a specialist for a short period of time, some — during a long — months, years. The only reason is to improve the situation, and couples are the only part who can determine the right time to stop these visiting.

There are many men who try to stop visiting a marriage counselor as soon as it is possible because they do not like to tell somebody about their problems, to complain, especially if it concern their private life. Sometimes men really do visit the specialist with wives but they do not want to follow the advice of the counselor. And there are such cases when marriage situations improve during the course but after its end the same problems are going to appear again.

If one of such situations mentioned above are common for you, you should not stop the therapy sessions with a marriage counselor until the time of significant progress in your private life. We strongly recommend not to stop the sessions at all, it can be possible to see a marriage counselor rarely. The only thing is to believe that everything will be okay and a marriage counselor is able to help.