Marriage Counseling – Learning to Have a Voice Again

Marie was a painfully shy child. She wouldn’t talk to a soul in school unless she a teacher asked her a question. Into her teens, her withdrawn personality continued to manifest itself. She rarely took place in any social activities. By the time college started, Marie hadn’t a friend. When John introduced himself to her, [...]

Responding to Disagreements

How do you respond to your partner when you disagree with what he/she has told you? What if your spouse does something that you don’t like? Do you yell? Give them the silent treatment? Or find ways to punish your spouse? Let’s say you have a spouse who is always running late. You are planning [...]

What is love?. Love is No Guarantee! What you Need to Know before You fall in Love

Do I love you because
I need you or do I need you
because I love you?
— Erich Fromm

What does it mean when you say to someone “I love you?” There are many answers and interpretations to this question, but when asked, the majority of people said that love is something they feel but cannot explain in words. People who genuinely feel they have fallen in love report a warm fuzzy inner feeling, sometimes giddiness. And, according to Psychiatrist Donatella Marazziti, of the University of Pisa, “Falling madly in love may really make you mentally ill.”

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Commitment to marriage, emotional engagement key to wives’ happiness

A study by University of Virginia sociologists W. Bradford Wilcox and Steven L. Nock finds that the single most important factor in women’s marital happiness is the level of their husbands’ emotional engagement — not money, the division of household chores or other factors.

The study also finds that women whose husbands earn the lion’s share of income, who don’t work outside the home, or who share a strong commitment to lifelong marriage with their husbands report the highest levels of marital happiness — in sharp contrast to academic conventional wisdom, according to the authors. In addition, perceptions of fairness matter for married women. Women who report that the division of housework is fair are happier in their marriages than women who think that their husbands don’t do their fair share.

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How Couples Counseling Eliminates Sides

Audrey and Franklin had some concerns when they decided to see a couples counselor that would help with their marital problems. Both were at an extremely polarized point with one another, using friends and family members as allies to join in on their argument. Of course, this only exacerbated the problem. Both Audrey and Franklin [...]

Walking On Eggshells

How do you respond to your partner when you disagree with what he/she has told you? What if your spouse does something that you don’t like? Do you yell? Give them the silent treatment? Or find ways to punish your spouse? Let’s say you have a spouse who is always running late. You are planning [...]

There’s More Than One Right Way

Almost every task can be completed in several different ways. However, most people become so used to the one way that they do things that whenever someone else’s technique varies, they assume it is wrong. Learning to recognize that how your partner does something might be right, even if it is not the same way [...]

Couples Counseling and Making Time for Intimacy

Making time for intimacy is becoming an increasingly common issue that couples bring into couples counseling. There seems to be a time shortage with increasing work hours and familial obligations. Sex almost seems like a luxury that many couples can’t seem to afford. In the same breath, when sex constantly gets put on the back [...]