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10 Top Secrets To A Long, Happy, Fulfilling Marriage

Thursday, December 9th, 2010

10 Top Secrets To A Long, Happy, Fulfilling Marriage

wedding couple in ballroomHappily married couples have provided these top ten tips for a lasting marriage full of happiness and joy.

By Mary Jones

Marriage is sometimes entered into lightly, but the reality is that it’s a commitment which needs nurturing and patience in order to be successful. The secrets to a long and happy marriage are not really secrets at all, just knowing how to retain the love and friendship which brought you together in the first place.

If you get married thinking you can change your partner into someone else, forget it! You were undoubtedly attracted to them in the first place because of who they were, so why should you want them to change? Adapt yourself to fit in with your spouse if you want your marriage to succeed.

Whatever happens, don’t stop talking to each other. A problem shared is a problem halved so the saying goes, and it is definitely true in a marriage. Whatever your difficulties they can be sorted out together

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Too Much TV Means You Are Unhappy

Friday, October 22nd, 2010

unhappy sex Too Much TV Means You Are Unhappy

We have a very interesting situation at hand. A study by Maryland University puts forth that unhappy people watch more TV. Then there is another survey that reports people find it difficult to switch from analog to digital TV, and so they end up watching TV more to relish the last few days of their favourite pass time. The world is definitely coming to an end on February 2009 for the many TV lovers in the US.

The researchers also found that people who read and socialize well are happier than those romancing the idiot box. Sociologist John Robinson is of the opinion that TV does not satisfy the need for social involvement in people. In fact, a newspaper will offer a better alternative.

But at the same time, TV viewing has come across as passive and is expected to be an escape route especially in the times of the global economic slowdown. This is so because more and more people would like to save money and save the embarassment of letting other folks know their financial status, so there will be even less socializing.

Quite a tricky spot to be in. A thing that offers short-term respite is nothing short of addiction. The choice is yours!

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10 Habits of Happy Couples

Friday, October 1st, 2010

10 Habits of Happy Couples

Improve your relationship today with these tried-and-true tips

By Mark Goulston Posted August 21, 2008 from Divorce360.com

10 Habits of Happy CouplesPhoto: © Comstock

What does it take to be happy in a relationship? If you’re working to improve your marriage, here are the 10 habits of happy couples.

1. Go to bed at the same time
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.

2. Cultivate common interests
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.

3. Walk hand in hand or side by side
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.

7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.

8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.

9. Do a “weather” check during the day
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.

10. Be proud to be seen with your partner
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

Happy couples have different habits than unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete behavior that you do automatically and that takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of a new a behavior to become a habit. So select one of the behaviors in the list above to do for 21 days and voila, it will become a habit…and make you happier as a couple. And if you fall off the wagon, don’t despair, just apologize to your partner, ask their forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the habit.

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12 Ways To Keep Your Wife Happy

Wednesday, September 29th, 2010

Send Her Roses

1- Send her ~ daisies, amarryllis, gardenias, bird of paradise, mums, carnations, hyacinths, kangaroo paw, lilacs or just some pretty colorful flowers from your neighbors yard (with their permission of course). For an extra special touch send these flowers to her job. You or a friend can deliver them to the lobby of her job.

You do not have to send her a dozen roses or a dozen of any type of flower. If you use a florist have them deliver one or two flowers or a small plant with a large bow wraped around it. Add a special note, eg, “Just thinking of you”, Love your husband. Or you can sign it from “A Secret Admirer”.

Listen To Her When She Speaks To You

2- Listen ~ It is so annoying when you speak to someone and they pretend to listen to you. Sure they hear words coming from your mouth, but immeadiatly ask them what did you say and many times they can’t tell you.

It is even more annoying when the person you’re talking to is your husband and he’s looking right at you and he cannot properly acknowledge what you have said with a decent answer or comment because he just wasn’t really listening. Really listening to each other will make your happiness level even higher. This is such an easy way to keep your wife happy.

Surprise Her

3- Surprise ~ her with her favorite chocolate or candy bar under her pillow. Do you know what her favorite candy is? Well it’s pretty easy to find out. Just observe what candy she’s always snacking on. If she doesn’t have a favorite, any candy will do. It’s the thought that counts.

Write Her A Love Letter

4- Love Letter ~ This may sound a little corny but a woman loves a love letter or just a short love note. Mail it to her at your home address or to her job. This surprise in the mail will have her sealing your lips with a kiss . If you don’t know what to write, here is an old favorite rhyme you probably used when you were a child: Roses are red…Violets are blue…I am so in love with you.

The words are simple yet true and the rhyming gives this short phrase a nice effect.

“You Look Beautiful”

5- Tell her she looks beautiful ~ especially when she doesn’t have on any makeup or if she’s expressed to you that she doesn’t look pretty. It’s not that you are telling her something that isn’t true, she’s your wife, you want to keep her happy, you love her and in your eyes she should always be beautiful no matter how she looks. Every woman needs a little ego boosting sometimes.

Cook Dinner For Her

6- Shrimp Fried Rice ~ Broccoli, Orange Chicken, and 2 Fortune Cookies Anyone? Do this at least once or twice a month. If you can’t cook, no problem, pick up a meal from her favorite take out resturant. (The food listed above is served on almost every Chinese resturant take out menu). Pick up some red wine or mineral water.

Put a tablecloth on the table. Make a centerpiece by putting 1 flower in the center of the table in a vase or just lay it on the table. Use 1or 2 candles on candle holders, or just use your imagination. (Cost of tablecloth, flower, candles and candle holders $1.00 each at any Dollar store). Serve the food on your good china dishes or at least make sure you don’t serve it on paper plates.(Unless your newlyweds and paper plates are all you have right now).

After you finish your meal break open your fortune cookies and have fun reading the fortunes found inside. Discuss the fortunes given and the lucky numbers usually found on the back of most fortune strips. Enjoy the conversation and enjoy each other.

When you both are finish eating, clean off the dinner table and wash all the dishes. She’ll be so happy that you planned, prepared and cleaned up after such a great time together. And you’ll be pleased to know that keeping your wife happy can be fun and entertaining.

Buy Her A Pet

7- A Puppy ~ kitten, hamster, bird, turtle, fish, a teddy bear, or UglyDoll, whether stuffed or real, pets can be such a happy addition to the family. Whether you choose to buy her a stuffed animal or a real one take in consideration the size of the animal you select. Does your house have room for a super large animal or would a medium or small one be more suitable?

Go Green

8- Plant A Tree Together ~ This will show strength and longevity that you want in your relationship. Visit a nursery and find a variety of choices. Google the words trees and shrubs for some excellant ideas. You’ll want to pick out the tree together and decide where you want to plant it.

Also work on your lawn together to make the landscape a beautiful flowery and green oasis. Since this is a project the both of you will be working on, not having to remind you to cut the grass and take care of the yard will keep your wife happy.

Do the Repairs You Promised

9- Check your Honey Do list ~ Is she still asking you to fix a leaky faucet, fix a running toilet, paint the bathroom? Well don’t ask her if she still wants you to fix this or do that, just go ahead and do it. From now on when she asks you the first time, do the chore as quickly as possible. How quick is quick? If you can do it immeadiately that’s excellant. If you can do it in one or two days that’s fine.

If the task takes a little longer to complete because you have to buy materials etc., then be sure to complete the request in no more than 2 weeks. If money is an option and you must wait for a pay check then by all means let her know you will handle the problem when you get paid. And when you get paid start and complete the task and check it off of your Honey Do List.

Take Her Out On A Date

10- Ask her out ~ Call her on her cell and ask her out on a date. You both had plenty of dates and fun times before you got married. Rekindle that passion and make it a point to always have a date night. Schedule this time together as you would any regular appointment.

Visit some of the fun places you use to go to. Things change so fast. If any of those places are no longer there or if they are located in another city or country and it’s impossible to visit that’s ok. There are lots of other possibilities. Make some new, exciting, fun and romantic memories.

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